The You Are More Library of Resources | Annie Harton Kassell, LMFT

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You Are More Companion Guides

Four companion guides, offered freely to anyone drawn to this work, whether or not you are currently in counseling with Annie. Each one is meant to be used, not just read. Take what serves you, and bring the rest to your own reflection.

For Couples

Two Whole People

A Companion for the Two of You

For married couples who want to grow closer without losing themselves in each other. Draws on Gottman’s research on turning toward small bids for connection, the softer feelings underneath conflict, and a simple weekly rhythm of gratitude, honesty, and prayer.

For Individuals

Coming Home to Yourself

A Companion for the Work You Are Beginning

For anyone beginning the work of individual therapy. Walks through the roles we carry without becoming them, the harsher inner voice many of us live with, and small daily returns to a self that was never really lost, only waiting.

For Wives & Mothers

You’re Allowed to Want Yourself Back

A Companion for Women Rediscovering Themselves in Marriage and Motherhood

Written for wives and mothers who gave so much of themselves that they lost track of who they were underneath the roles. Names the guilt that comes with wanting, and offers small, faithful ways back to herself.

For Catholic Women

The Examen for the Woman Who Forgot Herself

A 5-Day Ignatian Reflection Guide

A five-day reflection for Catholic wives and mothers, adapting the classical Ignatian Examen, one movement a day: gratitude, awareness, review, forgiveness, and hope, into a gentle path back to noticing her own soul again.

Additional Guides for Every Season of Life

Every guide in this library grew out of the same conviction behind the practice itself: that you are more than your struggles, and that faith and good clinical care were never meant to compete for the same room. Some of these resources are quick reference cards. Some are guided journals with real space to write. Others are short, honest reflections for a hard season. All of them are free, and none of them require you to be a client to use.

Browse by the kind of support you are looking for, or simply scroll. Wherever you start, we hope something here meets you exactly where you are.

Marriage & Couples Counseling

For Couples Learning Each Other Again

Practical, faith-rooted tools for couples working to understand each other better, repair after conflict, and keep choosing one another well.

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The Four Horsemen and the Examen

Gottman’s four relationship-killers, paired with the ancient Ignatian Examen, as a way to notice what is really happening between you before it hardens into a habit.

Repair Attempts Quick-Reference Card

Real phrases and gestures that de-escalate conflict, rooted in Gottman’s research and the call to be peacemakers.

20 Questions for a Marriage Check-In

A monthly rhythm of honest questions across connection, gratitude, growth, and faith, so distance never gets the chance to become the default.

Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

A realistic, faith-honest map for couples working to rebuild safety and trust after infidelity or a broken promise.

Individual Therapy

For Anyone Doing the Inner Work

Resources for anyone doing the quiet, courageous work of understanding themselves better, whether or not therapy is new to you.

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A Beginner’s Guide to Therapy

What actually happens in a first session, and honest answers to the fears that keep so many people from ever walking through the door.

Naming What You Feel

An emotions vocabulary guide and short grounding practice, because naming a feeling precisely is often the first step to carrying it well.

A Thought Record, Examen Style

A CBT thought-challenging worksheet reframed in the shape of the Ignatian Examen, for untangling anxious thoughts prayerfully.

When Therapy and Faith Intersect

Honest answers to the questions that keep faithful people from asking for help, including whether needing therapy means your faith wasn’t enough.

Individual Therapy for Women

For Wives & Mothers Reclaiming Themselves

For wives and mothers who gave everything to the people they love, and are ready to find themselves in it again.

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Finding Her Again

A guided journal with seven reflection entries and real space to write, for reconnecting with who you are beyond your roles.

Signs You’re in a Season of Identity Loss

A gentle, reflective checklist, not a diagnosis, for noticing whether identity loss might be part of what you are carrying.

Who Was I Before?

A guided memory exercise, walking through a place, a song, a friendship, and a dream, to retrieve pieces of yourself worth reclaiming.

Boundaries Without Guilt

A faith-integrated guide to saying no without believing you have failed at love, grounded in the truth that even Christ withdrew to pray.

Reclaiming Time

A five-minute weekly practice for claiming one hour that belongs to you, on purpose, every week.

Premarital Counseling & Marriage Prep

For Couples Building a Foundation

For engaged couples building a foundation that will outlast the wedding day, one honest conversation at a time.

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20 Conversations to Have Before You Say I Do

Twenty essential questions across faith, finances, family, roles, and conflict, for couples who want a real foundation, not just assumptions.

Building a Shared Rule of Life

An ancient Christian practice, adapted as a worksheet for building your marriage’s shared rhythm of prayer, rest, service, and community.

Merging Families, Merging Faith

For couples blending children, traditions, or differing levels of faith practice, before those differences are discovered the hard way.

Your Wedding Day, Your Marriage

A short reflection on keeping the marriage, not just the wedding, at the center of your preparation.

Marriage Intensives

Before, During & After an Intensive

Support before, during, and after the concentrated, focused work of an intensive.

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Preparing for Your Intensive

What to expect, and how to prepare your heart, your home, and your schedule for the work ahead.

The 48-Hour Reset

Hour-by-hour guidance for the vulnerable, important window right after an intensive ends.

A Couple’s Covenant Renewal Guide

A simple ritual for recommitting to each other, with a script you can use privately at home.

Emergency Repair Toolkit

A quick-reference guide for the middle of an acute crisis, to help you both get safely through the next hour.

Family & Relational Therapy

For the Whole Family System

Tools for the whole family system, not just the marriage at its center.

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The Family Meeting Guide

A simple, faith-centered framework for a weekly family meeting, with sample questions by age group.

Talking to Kids About Big Changes

Age-aware guidance for telling children the truth about divorce, loss, or transition, in language their hearts can hold.

Blended Family Blessing

Prayers and practices for stepfamilies learning to become one household, slowly and honestly.

Multigenerational Patterns Worksheet

A reflective tool for naming what your family handed down, and choosing, on purpose, what to pass on next.

Faith-Integrated Therapy

For Your Spiritual & Emotional Life Together

For anyone who wants their spiritual life and their emotional life to be welcomed in the same room.

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Scripture and the Nervous System

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, each paired with Scripture, because your body’s stress response has never been foreign to God.

The Examen for Emotional Health

A daily adaptation of the Ignatian Examen, for checking in honestly with your own heart, not just your day.

Discernment vs. Anxiety

How to tell the difference between the Holy Spirit’s nudge and your nervous system’s alarm, using the Ignatian framework of consolation and desolation.

When God Feels Distant

A short, honest guide through spiritual dryness, for seasons when prayer feels like an empty room, and you are not alone in that.

Common Questions

Questions Worth Asking

A few of the things people often want to know before they download.

Are the resources in the You Are More library free to download?: Yes. Every guide in the library is free to download, whether or not you are a current client of the practice.
Do I need to be Catholic to use these resources?: No. The library is built from a Catholic and broadly Christian perspective, and welcomes anyone drawn to faith-integrated reflection, regardless of tradition.
Do these guides replace therapy?: No. These resources are meant to support reflection and growth alongside professional care, not to replace individual or couples therapy.
Where do I start if I am not sure which guide fits my situation?: Start with whichever service area feels closest to what you are walking through right now. Most people find that one guide naturally leads them to another.

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